Hello, I’m Vicki!

I’m a Love, Dating and Relationship Coach and Attachment Styles expert who is totally devoted to helping big-hearted women to date wholeheartedly and love with courage.

Healthy and loving relationships have the power to enrich our lives.

To feel seen, known and loved is what gives life such meaning and deep fulfilment. But it takes courage to love and be loved because it’s scary to put yourself out there and be vulnerable.

No-one ever taught us how to navigate the world of dating and relationships.

We weren’t taught about love at school and most of us didn’t see healthy love modelled growing up. So is it any wonder that dating and relationships can feel tricky?

If you’re struggling in your relationship or if you’re finding dating to be a source of stress, frustration and anxiety, then I get it. And I’m here to help.

Explore what I have to offer below and let’s get you feeling more empowered and fulfilled on your love journey.

I can’t wait to support you.

Love, Vicki x

Here’s how I can help:


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Free weekly
Sunday Love Letter

Every Sunday (ish!), I share personal stories, lessons, musings and resources (inc journalling prompts) on all things love, dating, relationships and self love. My intention is to spark a little bit of joy and connection in your inbox each Sunday evening. Sign up here and you’ll start receiving my letters every Sunday!


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Learn about your
Attachment style

In discovering where you sit on the attachment spectrum, you can gain valuable insights into your romantic patterns, triggers and areas for growth. Take my free quiz today and discover your Attachment style and I’ll also send you my free Attachment Styles Guide!
Click here to find out more.


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Join my 3 month 1:1
Love Coaching Programme

Work with me 1:1 and have me as your personal Love, Dating and Relationship coach for 3 months - supporting you and encouraging you as you go on dates, positively challenging you and lovingly guiding you to a healthy and loving relationship. I work with a handle of clients each year. Click here to explore.

About me

I’m a Love, Dating and Relationship Coach, NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) Practitioner, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique / Tapping) Practitioner and Attachment Styles expert.

Over the past 11 years I’ve supported over 1,000 big-hearted women to navigate the ups and downs of modern dating with my compassionate approach. My mission is to create a world where dating is kind and intentional, where relationships are healthy and wholehearted and where we all have the courage to love and be loved.

Outside of my professional experience, I am someone who used to really struggle in love. Dating and relationships were always a source of drama, pain and disappointment. It was only when I started to heal my relationship with myself and raise my standards in love, that my life and relationships transformed.

I am passionately devoted to supporting women to heal their heart and their relationship with themselves because it’s what helped me the most, and so many of my clients, on our journey to healthy and fulfilling love.

It would be a privilege to help you do the same.

“My biggest aha moment is how my anxious tendencies and attachment style isn't anything to be embarrassed or ashamed about.

I knew that I felt anxious and needy in love, though it was the first time while working with Vicki that I realised there is nothing wrong or flawed with me.

I started to hold those parts of myself with deeper tenderness, love, and care. I started to love myself more deeply and I realised that my heart is really beautiful and I have a lot of love to give and I deserve and am worthy of a partner with an equally giving and generous heart.

Vicki helped me to become less anxious in dating and relationships and work on becoming more secure and trusting in love.”

— Priyanka Yadvendu (former client)

  • "Vicki Pavitt is a warm hug personified, full of love, positive energy and inspiration. She's a leading authority on helping women to find love"

    Chloe Brotheridge | Hypnotherapist, coach and bestselling author of ‘The Anxiety Solution’.

  • "Vicki is a wise, kind and loving presence. Her approach is not ‘do these five things to make him love you’ but a much more valuable approach of helping us to see the ways we block love and why we might do that and then, in time, how we might be more open to love … even if it comes in unexpected forms. Her approach is practical and gentle and always puts us - not the potential partner - at the heart of things. I had a coaching session with her and came out with realisations I had not had before about the people I do and don’t go for. It was illuminating and I would recommend her work to anyone looking for love" .

    Marianne Power | Writer and bestselling author of ‘Help Me!: One Woman's Quest to Find Out if Self-Help Really Can Change Her Life’

  • “Vicki Pavitt is the person you want to walk alongside you while you are looking for love. She’s trustworthy, warm and most importantly, she knows what she is talking about.”

    Dr Soph | Psychologist and bestselling author of 'A Manual For Being Human'

Discover your Attachment Style

Take the (free) quiz to find out your attachment style!

 Free Attachment Styles Guide

When you sign up to download the free Attachment Styles guide, you’ll also be signing up to my free Sunday Love Letter newsletter (you can unsubscribe anytime)

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